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What’s the Cost of Busy-ness

Busyness Does Not Equal Happiness

Busy-ness has become a badge of honor. Besides turning us into Godzilla mom (or dad or friend), there is a definite cost to all this busy-ness. Have you ever stopped to think of the consequences of being busy? I did some research on the subject, and I here’s what I learned. Busy-ness costs us…

1. Connection.

When you are stuck in the cycle of busy-ness, you:

  • have less time for family and friends.
  • experience a lack of presence (even when you do make time for others).
  • find yourself unable to enjoy the time because of too much to do
  • turn to social media for numbing and to escape the stress.

In fact, in a study conducted by Princeton University on seminary students found that 90% of those who felt extreme time-urgency and pressure to meet a deadline walked right past someone who was in desperate need of help. The take-away: busy-ness and stress rob us of connection and the very things that make our lives meaningful.

2. Money.

In the more literal sense of the word “cost,” there is a true financial cost to being busy, too. When you are busy, you are more likely to:

  • Miss payments, be charged late fees, forget to cancel extra subscriptions, and have limited time for bill review.
  • Eat out or purchase convenience foods which are 5x more expensive than eating meals at home or food you prepared yourself.
  • Let that gym membership go unused.

For example, have you signed up for that “special deal” on cable or internet that requires you call every 6 months to keep the payments at a manageable level? You can quickly spend an extra $50/month on your tv if you don’t have the time to do a bill review or call to update your subscription (that’s $300 every 6 months or $600 per year!).

Also, the subscriptions you put in place to outsource things or make your life easier also require attention and management. That Blue Apron membership or milk delivery is great…until you forget to cancel them and you’re on a two-week business trip.

3. Health.

When it comes to your health, busy-ness is certainly not in your favor. Busy-ness causes chronic stress and leads to:

  • Increased cortisol levels. Excess cortisol in the body has been linked to acne, abdominal fat and weight gain, insomnia, anxiety, depression, digestive problems, heart disease, and more.
  • Limited or no time for exercise, healthy eating, or self care.
  • Eating excess calories. You are more likely to eat out and reach for comfort foods when you are busy leading to up to 1,000 excess calories per week (that’s 10 lbs. of weight gain/year).

As a health & productivity coach, I’ve found that busy-ness and stress are the root (or underlying) cause of many health and lifestyle issues my clients are trying to improve. Once we tackle the busy-ness and stress, the ability to lose weight, exercise, be more present, prepare healthy meals, and just plain enjoy life becomes much easier. This was even the case for me!

4. Productivity.

Finally, busy-ness impedes our productivity. Here’s the irony: we are often staying busy because we associate it with being productive. This is not the case. Busy-ness causes:

  • An inability to focus on tasks. With so much swirling in your brain and no time for transition, you aren’t able to give the task-at-hand your full attention, limiting your creativity, problem-solving, and relationship skills.
  • You to be a “Jack of all trades, master of none.” By spreading yourself thin, you’re doing a lot of things with mediocrity instead of doing a few things exceptionally.
  • Rushing as well as being late to meetings and appointments. Talk about high cortisol levels!
  • Missed deadlines. You are more forgetful when you are busy and rushing, so deadlines fly out the window! Plus, the busiest people also tend to be the most over-committed people.

How Do You Stop the Cycle of Busy-ness?

The habit of being busy can be tricky to break, but certainly not impossible. It requires:

  • identification of your patterns and increased awareness on how you are spending your time and energy.
  • shifts to your mindset and habits towards doing less.
  • focusing on the vital few items that must be in place to feel present as well as to maximize your time and energy. 

I’ve seen this system work time and time again for my clients (and even in my own life), and now I can share it with you!

Do Less, Be More Coaching Program

My Do Less, Be More program is a 6-week group coaching program where I take you through my “busy-ness cleanse” so you can take back your time, energy, and joy.

The next round ofstarts October 23 and will be held on Wednesday’s through November 27. Space is limited, and I won’t be offering this discounted price again in the future. Don’t miss your chance to Do Less and Be More!

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5 Tips to Gain Less and Stress Less During the Holidays

stress less and gain less this holiday season

Did you know that 75% of all weight gained throughout the year is gained during the holidays (and the average amount gained is between 7-14 pounds)? 

And, ⅔ of people say they look forward to the holidays, but when asked once the season is over say they didn’t get to do the things they were looking forward to because they were stressed out over too many events, too many gifts to buy, and too many commitments. 

Sound familiar?

How would you like to finish the holiday season without having to squeeze into your pants after indulging in too much of grandma’s famous fruitcake (Does anyone really eat fruitcake)?

Or how about having the time and presence of mind to witness the joy of the season without running from place to place?

This year, you can actually enjoy the holidays and all they have to offer without feeling frazzled and needing to let out a notch on your belt!   

I’ve partnered with my good friend and Life Simplification Specialist Stephanie Sikora of Life Made Simple to keep you from overdoing it this season and finding more balance throughout the holidays.  

Top 5 Ways We “Overdo it” During the Holidays and Get Out of Balance

After some research and surveying friends as well as clients, we’ve determined there are five main ways that most people overdo it during the holidays.

  1. Overindulge
  2. Over-sedentary
  3. Over-schedule
  4. Overcommit
  5. Overspend

We’ve come up with some health and organizational tips to help you enjoy a more balanced season.

#1 – No need to overindulge!  You can enjoy holiday treats without feeling like an unsupervised kid in a candy store.

  • Health tip: Pause before you eat and ask yourself what it is you really want.  If onion dip is your favorite, plan to enjoy that at the holiday event.  Then, stop when you are satisfied.  More is not better in this situation.  Also, honor your hunger.  Starving yourself all day so you can splurge later just doesn’t work and leads to consuming more calories and fat.
  • Organizational tipTry to keep your kitchen clean and countertops clear.  Research on eating habits shows that those with clear kitchens participate in mindless eating less often than those with cluttered kitchens.  Take time each day to get rid of papers or other items that might be accumulating in your kitchen.  

#2 – Don’t become over-sedentary: keep your commitment to exercise! 

  • Health tip: Look ahead and plan even small amounts of time for activity.  It might not look the same that it normally does during the rest of the year.  That’s okay. The important thing is that you are making time to be active.  Not only does this allow you to eat treats without the guilt, but it burns off stress. For example, go for a walk at Aunt Millie’s…not only will you get exercise, you’ll get out of a house that smells like mothballs and is full of family talking about politics!
  • Organizational tip: Chaos around us, especially in our environment, triggers a stress response in our brain. This stress response shuts off the part of our brain that allows us to stay focused, optimistic, and disciplined.  Keeping things simple around us and having good systems can help you to keep things on track. Think about your environment – are things a little chaotic? If so, clean off a counter or better yet, have a system for keeping your counter clear. You will find that you stay focused on fitness even during the holidays.

#3 – Instead of over-scheduling, have time to truly enjoy what matters most.

  • Health tip: Talk to everyone in your immediate family to figure out which events or activities they enjoy most throughout the holiday. Set priorities based on these values.  Next, schedule time for other activities including down time, personal time, and family time. By having the most important things already scheduled, you can let go of the guilt from turning down other invitations.  
  • Organizational tip: Clutter can also occur in your calendar. This triggers stress!  Clear your cluttered calendar by setting some boundaries or a system to run your invites through.  Be okay with saying no or combine events if possible to help avoid clutter in your calendar.

#4 – No more overcommitting! Keep a handle on expectations of yourself and those around you.

  • Health tip: Be realistic about your commitments before you make them.  For example, when asked to make a pie for your kid’s classroom, ask yourself “Do I really have capacity for this?” or determine if there’s a different way to meet the need. Many times, we feel pressure to show up in a way that isn’t consistent with our values.  In this case, instead of making a pie, volunteer to lead a game of Simon Says during the holiday party.  This way, there is no prep involved, the kiddos aren’t all hopped-up on sugar, and you are getting to experience the activity along with them.
  • Organizational tip: Keeping things clear in your home and environment can help you to be more aware of what you are committing to and when things are too much.  And – don’t worry about what your organizational system looks like to others.  As long as it is working for you and makes your home feel clear and less chaotic, it doesn’t matter what others think.

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#5 – Resist the temptation to overspend and opt for more intentional spending.

  • Health tip: Focus on experiences over things.  Research shows that those who spend more often on experiences vs. things have less financial stress and worry.  They also enjoy the experiences more and for longer than material items.  Think of experiential gifts you’d like to give as well as receive to make it easy.  
  • Organizational tip: Do an inventory before you purchase.  Keep a simplistic mindset: you don’t have to go over the top just because it is the holidays!  Also, be aware of what you have already stashed away.  Create a good system to store gifts you buy during the year so you don’t duplicate efforts (and waste money).  Lastly, be okay with not buying a present if it’s not necessary.

Doing things differently can be tough!

We know how hard this season can be when it comes to sticking to a plan or doing things differently, so we want to offer support and accountability to have the balanced holiday you want.

This is not about doing more: it is about taking things off your plate or simplifying things to avoid overdoing it.  

I’m here to help!

I have created a FREE calendar with tips and inspiration for more joy and less stress this holiday season.  Coupled with weekly accountability emails and healthy recipes, I’m excited to offer this free support to help you enjoy wholesome holidays this year.

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